In evolutionary psychology and behavioral ecology, human mating strategies are a set of behaviors used by individuals to attract, select, and retain mates. Mating strategies overlap with reproductive
strategies, which encompass a broader set of behaviors involving the
timing of reproduction and the trade-off between quantity and quality of
offspring.
Relative to other animals, human mating strategies are unique in
their relationship with cultural variables such as the institution of marriage. Humans may seek out individuals with the intention of forming a long-term intimate relationship, marriage, casual relationship, or friendship. The human desire for companionship is one of the strongest human drives. It is an innate feature of human nature, and may be related to the sex drive.
The human mating process encompasses the social and cultural processes
whereby one person may meet another to assess suitability, the courtship process and the process of forming an interpersonal relationship. Commonalities, however, can be found between humans and nonhuman animals in mating behavior.
Flirting
To bond or express sexual interest, people flirt. Kate Fox, a social anthropologist,
posits two main types of flirting: flirting for fun and flirting with
intent. Flirting for fun can take place between friends, co-workers, or
total strangers that wish to get to know each other. This type of
flirting does not seek sexual intercourse or romantic relationship, but
increases the bonds between two people.
Flirting with intent plays a role in mate-selection. The person
flirting sends out signals of sexual availability to another, and hopes
to see the interest returned to encourage continued flirting. Flirting
can involve non-verbal signs, such as an exchange of glances,
hand-touching, hair-touching, or verbal signs, such as chatting up,
flattering comments, and exchange of telephone numbers to enable further
contact.
Dating
People date to assess each other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. Dating rules may vary across different cultures, and some societies may even replace the dating process by a courtship instead.
Matchmaking
In many cultural traditions, a date may be arranged by a third party, who may be a family member, acquaintance, or professional matchmaker. In some cultures, a marriage may be arranged by the couple's parents or an outside party. Recently, internet dating has become popular.
Theoretical background
Research on human mating strategies is guided by the theory of sexual selection, and in particular, Robert Trivers' concept of parental investment.
Trivers defines parental investment as “any investment by the parent in
an individual offspring that increases the offspring's chance of
surviving (and hence reproductive success)
at the cost of the parent's ability to invest in other offspring.”
Trivers posited that differential parental investment between males and
females drives the process of sexual selection, which leads to the
evolution of sexual dimorphism in mate choice, competitive ability, and courtship displays (see also secondary sex characteristics). In humans, females make a larger parental investment than males (i.e. nine months of gestation followed by childbirth and lactation).
While human males invest heavily in their offspring as well, their
minimum parental investment is still lower than that of females. Hence,
evolutionary psychologists have predicted a number of sex differences in
human mating strategies.
Gender differences
Sexual desire
One theory states that because of their lower minimum parental investment, men can achieve greater reproductive success by mating with multiple women than women can achieve by mating with multiple men.
Evolutionary psychologists therefore argue that ancestral men who
possessed a desire for multiple short-term sex partners, to the extent
that they were capable of attracting them, would have left more
descendants than men without such a desire. Ancestral women, by
contrast, would have maximized reproductive success not by mating with
as many men as possible, but by selectively mating with those men who
were most able and willing to invest resources in their offspring.
Gradually in a bid to compete to get resources from potential men, women
have evolved to show extended sexuality.
One classic study found that when college students were approached on
campus by opposite-sex confederates and asked if they wanted to "go to
bed" with him/her, 75% of the men said yes while 0% percent of the women
said yes. Evidence also indicates that, across cultures, men report a greater openness to casual sex, a larger desired number of sexual partners, and a greater desire to have sex sooner in a relationship. These sex differences have been shown to be reliable across various studies and methodologies. However, there is some controversy as to the scope and interpretation of these sex differences.
Evolutionary research often indicates that men have a strong
desire for casual sex, unlike women. Men are often depicted as wanting
numerous female sexual partners to maximize reproductive success.
Evolutionary mechanisms for short-term mating are evident today.
Mate-guarding behavior and sexual jealousy point to an evolutionary
history in which sexual relations with multiple partners became a
recurrent adaptive problem, while the willingness of modern-day men to have sex with attractive strangers, and the prevalence of extramarital affairs in similar frequencies cross-culturally, are evidence of an ancestral past in which polygamous mating strategies were adopted.
By contrast, journalist Daniel Bergner, who dismisses evolutionary
biology, argues that monogamy has been used to control human female
sexual behavior and that the human female sex drive is not lower than
the human male sex drive.
Flanagan and Cardwell argue
that men could not pursue this ideology without willing female
partners. Every time a man has a new sexual partner, the woman also has a
new sexual partner. It has been proposed, therefore, that casual sex
and numerous sexual partners may also confer some benefit to females.
That is, they would produce more genetically diverse offspring as a
result, which would increase their chances of successfully rearing
children to adolescence, or independence.
Sexual attractions
Evolutionary psychologists have predicted that men generally place a greater value on youth and physical attractiveness in a mate than do women. Youth is associated with reproductive value in women, and features that men find physically attractive in women are thought to signal health and fertility.
Men who preferentially mated with healthy, fertile, and reproductively
valuable women would have left more descendants than men who did not.
Since men’s reproductive value does not decline as steeply with age as
does women’s, women are not expected to exhibit as strong of a
preference for youth in a mate. Evolutionary psychologists have also
speculated that women are relatively more attracted to ambition and
social status in a mate because they associate these characteristics
with men’s access to resources. Women who preferentially mated with men
capable of investing resources in their offspring, thereby ensuring
their offsprings' survival, would have left more descendants than women
who did not. Evolutionary psychologists have tested these predictions
across cultures, confirming that men tend to report a greater preference
for youth and physical attractiveness in a mate than do women, and that
women tend to report a greater preference for ambition and social
status in a mate than do men. Some sex differences in mate preferences may be attenuated by national levels of gender equity and gender empowerment. The specific role that culture plays in modulating sex differences in mate preferences is subject to debate.
Cultural variations in mate preference can be due to the evolved
differences between males and females of a culture. For example, as
women gain more access to resources their mate preferences change.
Finding a mate with resources becomes less of a priority and a mate with
domestic skills is more important. As women’s access to resources
varies between cultures, so does mate preference.
Individual differences
Sociosexual Orientation Inventory
Average
differences in mating strategies between the sexes do not entail
uniformity in mating strategies within the sexes, and in humans, such
within-sex variation is substantial.
Individual differences in mating strategies are commonly measured using
the Sociosexual Orientation Inventory (SOI), a questionnaire that
includes items assessing past sexual behavior, anticipated future sexual
behavior, and openness to casual sex. Higher scores on the SOI indicate a sexually unrestricted mating strategy, and lower scores on the SOI indicate a sexually restricted
mating strategy. Several studies have found that scores on the SOI are
related to mate preferences, with more sexually restricted individuals
preferring personal/parenting qualities in a mate (e.g. responsibility
and loyalty), and with less sexual restricted individual preferring
qualities related to physical attractiveness and social visibility. Other studies have shown that SOI scores are related to personality traits (i.e. extraversion, erotophilia, and low agreeableness), conspicuous consumption in men as a means to attract women, and increased allocation of visual attention to attractive opposite-sex faces.
Short-term vs. long-term mating
Evolutionary
psychologists have proposed that individuals may adopt conditional
mating strategies in which they adjust their mating tactics to relevant
environmental or internal conditions.
To the extent that ancestral men were capable of pursuing short-term
mating strategies with multiple women, the evolutionary benefits are
relatively straightforward. Less clear, however, are the evolutionary
benefits that women might have received from pursuing short-term mating
strategies. However, women in a stressed situation may benefit from
protection from a male and short term mating is a way to achieve this as
is seen in contemporary asylum seeker anthropological studies .
One prominent hypothesis is that ancestral women selectively engaged in
short-term mating with men capable of transmitting genetic benefits to
their offspring such as health, disease resistance, or attractiveness.
Since women cannot inspect men's genes directly, they may have evolved
to infer genetic quality from certain observable characteristics.
One prominent candidate for a "good genes" indicator includes
fluctuating asymmetry, or the degree to which men deviate from perfect
bodily symmetry. Other candidates include masculine facial features, behavioral dominance, and low vocal pitch.
Evolutionary psychologists have therefore indicated that women
pursuing a short-term mating strategy have higher preferences for these
good gene indicators, and men who possess good genes indicators are more
successful in pursuing short-term mating strategies than men who do
not. Indeed, research indicates that self-perceived physical
attractiveness, fluctuating asymmetry, and low vocal pitch
are positively related to short-term mating success in men but not in
women. Women prefer purported good genes indicators more for a
short-term mate than for a long-term mate, and a related line of
research, known as the ovulatory shift hypothesis, shows that women’s preferences for good genes indicators in short-term mates tends to increase during peak fertility in the menstrual cycle just prior to ovulation.
Women are thought to seek long-term partners with resources (such
as shelter and food) that provide aid and support survival of
offspring. To achieve this, women are thought to have evolved extended sexuality.
Mating strategy plasticity
Research
on the conditional nature of mating strategies has revealed that
long-term and short-term mating preferences can be fairly plastic.
Following exposure to cues that would have been affected mating in the
ancestral past, both men and women appear to adjust their mating
preferences in ways that would have historically enhanced their fitness.
Such cues include the need to care for young, danger from animals and
other humans, and resource availability.
Environmental predictors
In
2005, the evolutionary psychologist David Schmitt conducted a
multinational survey of sexual attitudes and behaviors involving 48
countries called the International Sexual Description Project (ISSR).
Schmitt assessed relationships between several societal-level variables
and average scores on the SOI. One variable that was shown to
significantly predict a nation’s average SOI score was the Operational
Sex Ratio (OSR), which was defined by Schmitt as “the relative balance
of marriage-age men versus marriage-age women in the local mating pool.”
When one sex is scarce relative to the other sex, the less-scarce sex
may compete more intensely for access to the scarcer sex. One way in
which the more numerous sex might compete is by displaying the
attributes that are most desired by the scarcer sex. Since men have a
greater desire for casual sex (see above), societies with more women
relative to men were predicted to exhibit higher scores on the SOI than
societies with more balanced or male-biased sex ratios. This prediction
was confirmed: OSR was significantly positively correlated with national
SOI scores.
Another variable that Schmitt predicted would influence SOI scores was
the need for biparental care. In societies where extensive care from
both parents is needed to ensure offspring survival, the costs of having
sex with an uncommitted partner are much higher. Schmitt found
significant negative correlations between several indices of need for
biparental care (e.g. infant mortality, child malnutrition, and low
birth-weight infants) and national SOI scores.
Another important societal variable for mating strategies is the threat of infectious disease or pathogen prevalence.
Since physical attractiveness is thought to signal health and disease
resistance, evolutionary psychologists have predicted that, in societies
high in pathogen prevalence, people value attractiveness more in a
mate. Indeed, research has confirmed that pathogen prevalence is
associated with preferences for attractiveness across nations. Women in nations with high pathogen prevalence also show greater preferences for facial masculinity.
Researchers have also reasoned that sexual contact with multiple
individuals increases the risk of disease transmission, thereby
increasing the costs of pursuing a short-term mating strategy.
Consistent with this reasoning, higher pathogen prevalence is associated
with lower national SOI scores.
Finally, several studies have found that experimentally manipulating
disease salience has a causal influence on attractiveness preferences
and SOI scores in predicted directions.
Political attitudes
Some
evolutionary psychologists have argued that mating strategies can
influence political attitudes. According to this perspective, different
mating strategies are in direct strategic conflict. For instance, the
stability of long-term partnerships may be threatened by the
availability of short-term sexual opportunities. Therefore, public
policy measures that impose costs on casual sex may benefit people
pursuing long-term mating strategies by reducing the availability of
short-term mating opportunities outside of committed relationships. One
public policy measure that imposes costs on people pursuing short-term
mating strategies, and may thereby appeal to sexually restricted
individuals, is the banning of abortion. In an influential doctoral
dissertation, the psychologist Jason Weeden conducted statistical
analyses on public and undergraduate datasets supporting the hypothesis
that attitudes towards abortion are more strongly predicted by
mating-relevant variables than by variables related to views on the sanctity of life.
Weeden and colleagues have also argued that attitudes towards
drug legalization are driven by individual differences in mating
strategies. Insofar as sexually restricted individuals associate
recreational drug use with promiscuity, they may be motivated to oppose
drug legalization. Consistent with this, one study found that the
strongest predictor of attitudes towards drug legalization was scores on
the SOI.
This relationship remained strong even when controlling for personality
traits, political orientation, and moral values. By contrast, nonsexual
variables typically associated with attitudes towards drug legalization
were strongly attenuated or eliminated when controlling for SOI and
other sexuality-related measures. These findings were replicated in
Belgium, Japan, and the Netherlands.
Weeden and colleagues have made similar arguments and have conducted
similar analyses in regard to religiosity; that is, religious
institutions may function to facilitate high-fertility, sexually
restricted mating and reproductive strategies.